June 26th, 2009
Kencing
Terjaga pukul 3 pagi semalam bila kaki I terasa basah. Laa… Zara kencing punya la banyak sampai bocor kat tilam. She did wear diaper, tapi terlupa minta Abang tolong tukar her diaper before going to sleep last night. Entah apasal la Abang pergi buka CD Tarzan at 11.30 pm. Meloncat la si Zara dan Adham tu tengah-tengah malam buta. The kids memang berani buat deeeeek kat I bila Ayah diorang ada kat rumah. I paksa Imah dan Amjah tidur dalam bilik, esok pagi nak pergi sekolah. Sudahnya dengan I tertidur sama, bertemankan jerit-pekik Zara dan Adham kat luar. I tahu, Abang nak pujuk Zara balik, teruk Zara kena marah sebab buat bising kat masjid masa Abang bawa pergi solat Isyak. Abang kalau pukul anak, I memang tak pernah approve, dulu, kini dan selamanya. Balik rumah, episod dua pulak, Zara kena kurung dalam bilik sorang-sorang, teruk budak tu menangis. Agaknya pasal tu last night kencing dia banyak gila. Terkencing-kencing la kot budak perempuan tu bila sesekali dia tengok Ayah dia marah macam tu sekali. Maka pagi tadi balik dari solat Subuh, Abang pun kena la angkut tilam besar gedabak queen size tu untuk dibasuh di luar. Tu la, lain kali marah anak tak ingat!
Actually Zara dalam proses toilet training. Siang-siang dia dah tak pakai diapers. Senang aje nak train dia, compared to Imah and Amjah. Zara’s development sejak dulu lagi agak cepat, boleh berjalan umur 9 bulan, setahun lebih dah berani lari rumah lintas jalan pergi playground, boleh bercakap before she reached 2, sejak kecil nak buat itu ini sendiri. Cuma bab toilet train aje lambat, bukan sebab dia tak bersedia, tapi sebab I takde masa. Kan sebelum ni I sibuk belajar, siang-siang diorang kat taska. I prefer, bab-bab toilet train ni biar ibu sendiri yang buat, jangan harap kat taska, pengasuh, orang gaji atau atuk nenek. It involves a lot of emotion, baik di pihak anak, mahupun di pihak kita. Sepanjang tempoh toilet training tu, it might be the first time ever in his or her life anak kita diberi kepercayaan, dilatih berdikari, dapat peluang untuk impress kita a lot everytime he or she manages to go to the toilet, menguatkan jati diri dan keyakinan diorang, as well as diorang boleh perasan konon-konon macam dah besar. As what Imah always says, “Kanak-kanak dewasa yang kencing kat toilet, kanak-kanak kecil yang kencing kat pampers!” So they are proud if they could be regarded as “kanak-kanak dewasa”. Wah, syok sungguh diorang kalau dapat izin main air kat toilet. Amjah dulu masa toilet train, sekali kencing, sampai setengah jam dia menghabiskan air. Zara ni, I monitor lagi for now, so she doesn’t get full freedom yet.
Di pihak kita, memang penat dan tension juga every time “accident” berlaku. Nak-nak kalau accident tu kat spots yang best, macam atas tilam, atas karpet, atas kusyen, dalam kereta, fuhh! Memang menguji kesabaran. Tapi sebab kita ibu, kita menerimanya dengan tenang dan redha, walaupun mulut bising sampai nak pecah rumah. So bayangkan kalau orang lain yang toilet train anak kita, I tak yakin diorang boleh bersabar as much as a mother could. Have you watched a video clip pasal maid yang terajang dan pijak budak kecil tu? Memang terrible dan sadis sungguh. Maid tu bengang sebab budak yang tengah toilet train tu kencing berak merata, agaknya dah tiba peak dia, mengamuk sakan la maid bangang tu, sampai sanggup belasah budak kecil yang innocent. I trauma lepas tengok video clip tu. Bayangkan macam mana perasaan budak tu? Knowing my kids, diorang pun rasa bersalah juga each time ter accident sini sana. Sometimes diorang tunduk sayu tengok lantai, sometimes diorang lari masuk menyorok dalam bilik, sometimes diorang renung muka I tunggu masa nak kena marah. Diorang pun tahu rasa tak selesa bila tiba-tiba seluar basah. Ada masanya I sengaja mop lantai dulu, bersihkan najis semua, biarkan diorang berdiri kat situ dengan seluar basah, biar diorang rasa macam mana teruknya terkencing dalam seluar. Memang kesian. Tapi peranan kita la, untuk beri anak-anak keyakinan, so that next time they can control and will not repeat the mistake.
At first I thought that now is the most right time to toilet train Zara. I tengah cuti semester, 24-7 jaga Zara. If you want to toilet train your kid, the most two must-obey rules are, you have to be consistent and you yourself kena disiplin. So I need to be by Zara’s side all the time. Furthermore I am in my final stage of pregnancy, which is the time when you have to visit toilet entah berapa belas kali dalam sehari. The urge to urinate comes so often as the baby’s head dah start setting in position for delivery. Memang senak bila terasa pundi kencing ditekan-tekan. Dulu masa early pregnancy pun rasa macam ni juga as the womb started to expand, tapi tak tension sangat sebab perut tak besar lagi, so no problem nak cangkung-cangkung semua. But towards the end of pregnancy, perut dah memboyot, seksa betul rasanya nak pergi kencing, dah la almost every hour pulak tu! So bila I terasa nak kencing, I akan tanya Zara, sama ada dia rasa nak kencing ke tidak. Senang, ada natural time indicator, taklah terlupa nak check Zara, and the accident pun jarang sangat berlaku.
Bercakap pasal rasa nak kencing yang tak habis-habis datang during this stage of pregnancy, sometimes I rasa hairan, dari mana datangnya air kencing tu? Kadang-kadang rasa macam tak minum banyak air pun, even masa puasa, but still you feel like want to go to the toilet. Seolah-olah bladder ni memanjang aje penuh. But of course during pregnancy, you have to drink lots of water, memang cepat letih dan dahaga. Berjalan 5 minit pun seolah-olah macam baru lepas marathon 1 km. Kalau you mengadu kat doktor pasal kencing pun, doktor tetap akan advise suruh you minum air banyak-banyak, so aliran air kencing tu lancar, taklah sampai kencing tak lawas. Masa mengandungkan Amjah, Zara dan Adham, I kencing tak lawas sampai kena ambil antibiotics. Kencing sampai boleh menangis! Doktor cakap it is common for pregnant mothers to get infection kat urinary tract. Kalau dah pernah kena during previous pregnancy, you have the chances untuk kena lagi during next pregnancies. Tapi syukur, kali ni tak kena pulak. Actually the bacteria that infect the urinary tract can easily be fought by normal persons, but for pregnant mothers it is different. Mungkin sebab antibody tak cukup kot. That’s why husband pun kena jaga kebersihan, of course you don’t want to jeopardize your wife and baby’s health. Doktor kata, the bacteria might harm the baby during delivery, that’s why it has to be treated and you as well as the baby should be closely monitored.
Now since week 36 I start to feel the Braxton Hicks contractions. It is a kind of practice contractions that happen naturally to prepare my body for real contractions later on. Please Google, baca sendiri. Braxton Hicks contractions ni taklah sesakit yang real punya masa in labor tu, but it makes you uncomfortable, sampai rasa nak baring aje tak nak buat apa-apa. Nak jadi cerita, I always get these contractions at noon and at night. Kalau waktu malam, tak kisahlah, Abang ada. Masalahnya bila kena waktu tengah hari, poor my little kids, they always have to eat lunch at 3 pm. Masa dah reda sakit, baru I bangun dari katil. Imah and Amjah takde masalah sangat, balik dari tadika, they can watch cartoons and play on their own. Adham pun senang, I tidurkan dia siap-siap bila nak dekat 12 noon and he will only wake up at 3. Masalahnya Zara, the false labor contractions betul-betul mengganggu proses nak toilet train Zara. I betul-betul tak larat nak bawa Zara pergi toilet when the contractions come. Pernah sekali I gamble, sedar-sedar Amjah cakap kat I, ada tahi Zara kat ruang tamu. Dah satu kerja nak bersihkan, serik I! So bila I rasa nak rehat aje, I pakaikan Zara diapers siap-siap. Dah terang-terang melanggar the two must-obey rules. For sure Zara gets confused, Ibu marah bila kencing dalam seluar, tapi bila Ibu nak rehat dan Zara rasa nak kencing, Ibu suruh kencing aje dalam diapers. If you tak consistent dan tak disiplin, how could you expect to see some progress?
I am thinking to stop toilet training Zara sekejap, at least until I dah bersalin. Tapi kesian pulak kat dia. Budak kenit tu dah syok dok ulang-alik pergi toilet every hour or two. Zara malu-malu kucing when I present report kat Abang about her progress pasal kencing kat toilet. She is proud when Imah and Amjah tengok Zara tak pakai diapers dah. She even teases Adham sebab pakai diapers, konon-konon Zara dah jadi kanak-kanak dewasa, Adham tu kanak-kanak kecil lagi. So I don’t want to spoil her good feelings. It is quite a milestone for her. Nampaknya I kena berkorban la sikit, Braxton Hicks contractions tu nothing aje kalau nak dibanding dengan achievement Zara yang cukup menggembirakan I.
